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im separated for about 6 months now. Everytime i goto drop kids off at their mothers they beg me to come in and even thoug its a new house i never lived in and i tell them i dont live there they still want me to sleep over and its very sad...any suggestions on what i should do or tell them? Thank you in advance
Posted November 26, 2009 10:46 PM
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The hardest part about this is your own grief. Their grief brings out your grief which makes it all the harder on you and harder to answer their questions. While you can read what all the experts say, it's not as easy as they make it sound. You will want to deal with your own grief. Talk it out with friends or a professional. In the meantime, help your children deal with their grief. Do not place blame. Let them know that mom and dad no longer want to live together and reassure them that both of you still love them. Let them talk about how they miss the two of you being together however do not express the same sentiment. That will only confuse them. Let them know that it is okay to want the two of you together however that will not happen and that eventually things will get better. If they show any behavioral problems, seek the help of a professional. For more information, see my website and blog at www.brighterdays4you.com.
Posted November 27, 2009 12:07 PMThis answer was rated:
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Thank you so much
Posted November 27, 2009 12:45 PM
