PRO Am I wrong?

Am I wrong to want a couple days alone with peace and quiet for a couple days away from partner and kids. I find I get a bit overwhelmed, especially because the children are not my own. Someone help?

NO!!!  Of course you aren't wrong!!!  Just because we get married or get involved in a relationship doesn't mean we should never want time to ourselves!  As a professional in my field, one of the things I specialize in is the loss of self in parenting and in relationships because it's something I see happening way too often!!  I was even a victim of it myself and it was one of the factors that led to the demise of my marriage.  You see, in any relationship, it is essential to keep in touch with who are you are.  You need to nurture your needs, your interests, your hobbies... what makes you who you are?  The things that you enjoyed before you entered the relationship is all things that you should still be able to do.  We all need time alone now and then to submerge yourself in what makes you YOU.  And to be in touch with your wants, likes, and desires.

I work with alot of couples and I encourage them not only to do this for themsleves but to encourage their partner to do it as well.  You need to allow your partner the time to do things that makes him HIm or her HER.  Being in a relationship doesn't mean you give yourself up.  Don't put your hobbies, interests, and other relationships (family and friends) on a shelf.  There are so many facets of yourself that deserve to continue having a life of their own.  Make sure you make time for that and allow yourself to do this by validating the need.  Talk to your husband about it and make sure he is on the same page with you.  Entering into a mutually beneficial relationship where you encourage each others individualism makes for a healthy relationship!

I am in a relationship where I will soon be having my boyfriend move in with me and he will then be surrounded by MY children.  I intend to have a separate space set up for him so that he has time alone and can kind of "escape' from me and my children when he needs to.  I know he loves us and wants to share a life with us, but I also understand his fears of getting lost in my family and my children and I want him to be in an environment where he still feels there is a place where he can just be HIMSELF. 

So, your thoughts and your needs are totally healthy.  Hope this was helpful!